Wouldn't do it to a dog
I have been missing for a day or so because my father is dying. He has pneumonia that cannot be controlled because of asbestosis and a lifetime of smoking. He has heart failure of several years standing for which he takes warfarin. Warfarin and a life of smoking and have given him thin arteries, which bleed on a regular basis into his brain and give him a minor stroke every couple of weeks. He is having a constant stroke at the moment because his blood clotting index is currently 9.9 out of 10. He thinks that he is in an IRA torture camp and that the doctors and nurses are killing him very slowly, so he removes his oxygen mask and rips out the canulas supplying the drugs. He keeps trying to get out of bed to "get the taxi" to get him to hospital. Yesterday he told me he had killed an IRA leader and that's why they are doing this to him and that I am next.
We would not leave a DOG to die in this state, why on earth do we have to do this to a human? I don't use this blog for much personal stuff because it's not what it's for. But on this one, please wish my dear Dad a quick and painless death, and very soon.
C.
UPDATE THURSDAY
Dad died last night. Thank you all for your support.
posted by cptrayes @ 6:46 PM
14 comments
14 Comments:
Oh, Caroline, I am so sorry. Having lost my parents, I can truly sympathize with your misery.
You are right. It is not fair. May he soon find peace.
I will pray for you all.
I can only send my love and support through words, so inadequate. I will keep you in my thoughts and hope only for the best and easiest end.
Keeping you, and Dad, in our prayers here on this side of the pond too Caroline. Be strong.
Bless him I hope his passing is quick and as painless as possible.
Awful waiting time for you and the family. :-(
i entirely agree with you caroline, and really don't understand why we are forced to put our people through this
lots of hugs for you to help you get through it, and the rest of the family and your dad of course
Thanks chaps. We are hopeful that the comatic state that he is slipping into more and more often will become permanent soon and end his mental turmoil.
For our USA friends, the IRA is the Irish Republian Army that used to bomb England throughout the 70s in order to try to win independence from the UK for Northern Ireland. As far as I know my Dad has no connection whatsoever with IRA stuff and why he has regressed to that point I have no idea. It would be funny if it were not so tragic!
Life has to go on. Tomorrow we are off to showjump gorgeous George.
C
I echo the comments of everyone else above.
One of the hardest things to accept is that feeling of helplessness towards someone you feel you ought to be able to do something for. But he'll find his time when he's ready.
You, Dad and SH are in my thoughts at such a difficult time.
Add my sympathies to the list of comments. The suffering makes no sense at all to me. Perhaps we can learn from this and request a different end for ourselves. I am thinking of you! I hope you get a good dose of equine therapy tomorrow. ML
Thanks Anon & ML I am so thankful that he is in a hospital that not only operates a "do not rescusitate" policy but also has a "do not escalate" policy, where on request by the family no greater effort is made to fight to keep him alive for what will be a miserable, fundamentally disabled extension of his life and a horrible, lingering future death.
Brain surgery was an option and we have been able to refuse permission for that. I don't think that policy is standard practice throughout the country. The young doctor who gently led us to understand that it was an option was very skilled and I am very grateful to him.
C
Oh im so sorry Caroline such a horrible thing to have to go through for all of you.
We went through something similar 2years ago with my Nana.She hung on and hung on and although you dont want them to go your willing it to happen.
We also said no rescusitate and the hospital were wonderfull, basically she was on more and more morphine then was in a coma.
Its terrifying to see how the 'body' hangs onto life when all else is gone.
Praying its swift and painless.
I hope good ald George brings some pleasure for you tomorrow.
Thanks everyone, Dad died last night, so he is out of his torment and pain. I'm fine, just grateful that he had only four days of real illness and made the ripe old age of nearly 80 - we've had to cancel the birthday party next weekend, the principal guest will be missing.
C
My condolences Caroline, a blessed release for your dear dad, RIP old fella, your torment is now over.
Tracey B
sorry for your loss, caroline, but glad it wasn't further drawn out.
have another hug.
It is such a relief. He had a long and pretty much healthy life until March this year. He was only really ill for the last week. People who have had relatives linger for years (Allan's father's death was expected "any day now" for five whole years and he was ina terrible mental and physical state:-( )
Dad's death resolves a lot of family issues which were very upsetting and getting worse. So all in all, I can't be too sad. I'm getting on with life because it's what he would have wanted me to do.
Thankyou for the hugs everyone.
C
Worsd a bit muddled there, but you know what I mean!
C
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